The BDSM community has long identified a trend in society to brand certain kinks as ok and others as not, even though the deliniation is being made on a truly arbitrary basis.  I’m not talking about, “This is what I like to do, and those are things *I* don’t want to do.”  I’m talking about, “This is what I like to do, and therefore everyone should be ok with it.  Those are the things I do not like to do, and therfore no one should even be allowed to do those things, simply because I don’t like them.”  This isn’t how individuals express it, but these are the thoughts going on.  For example, I’ve met plenty of people into choking thier partners who don’t even consider themselves as kinky at all, and think that BDSM practitioners are bad people.  There are those that flog or cane that feel that needle play is wrong, people into intense 24×7 D/s who feel that incest role play is wrong, and it goes on and on.  A significant number of people in the community however do recognize the problem and do thier best to remove this sort of thinking from themselves and thier associates.  This is certainly a positive thing.

What puzzles me is that so few people are able to see the foolishness in this sort of thinking, and that even some that are able to see it in one context are unable to see it in another.  For example, I know a number of people that are quite upset over the restrictions placed on the trafficing of a specific mind altering substance.  The substance in particular is wine.  However, I also know that at least some of them see no problems in restrictions being placed on any number of the wide variety of mind altering substances currently being manufactured around the globe.  Isn’t this a my kink, your kink situation?  Or the legions who are concerned with various social networking site’s privacy features, but not concerned with government snooping into thier personal lives.  It is well established that information seized by the government is widely distributed into public, private and criminal markets (just ask the folks that had thier SSNs distributed after VA lost a laptop).  Again, my kink, your kink.  I just don’t get it.